“Free Ryan Romo” Page Hits Facebook

You’ll remember Ryan Romo from such hits as this. Now, 90 of his (presumably) fellow students have liked the “Free Ryan Romo” page on Facebook. But really all you have to know about that page, and the intelligence of those “liking” it, can be summed up in this screenshot.

Update: More than 250 folks have now signed on, and the comments are about as hateful as you’d expect. There’s also at least one father of four girls defending Romo. Hope his daughters aren’t on Facebook.

81 comments on ““Free Ryan Romo” Page Hits Facebook

  1. Since when did hooking up with someone mean you want to have sex with them? Even if she was all over him at the concert, that doesn’t mean she wanted to have sex with him. How is it right to assume she consented to sex just because she kissed him? You cannot make a direct relationship between the two things.

  2. Let the investigation run it’s course.

    The comments from HP kids have left me speechless. Literally no concept of right/wrong or even the intelligence to make coherent comments.

  3. You all need to get a life. Ryan is so sweet and respectful. He is a great guy and you all need to stop badmouthing him. If you dont know him dont judge him. Thanks.

  4. We saw this same thing play out (albeit with a very different back story) with the ESD sex scandal. The slut shaming. The implication that the matter is, or rightfully should be, an internal matter. (This is OUR house!) Apparently, wealthy people will rally around a powerful and/or popular man no matter what, provided he’s one of their own; apparently, they’re the very last segment of Western Civilization to get the memo that women have sexual agency.

    For the record, when this story first broke on Unfair Park, I was one of the very first to say, let’s withhold judgment, innocent until proven guilty, etc., and I still believe it.

    But I’ll tell you this with 100 percent assurance: If “Ryan Romo” were the 18-year-old son of Mexican immigrants, soon to graduate from Samuell High School, you’d hear a very, very different tune out of these people.

  5. @park cities resident…
    Why would the HPISD Attorney need to talk to the child that might not even be related to him? The boy can comment on anything he wants, and what he said was nothing bad at all, if anything it was good, and something you should listen to. You’re just an ignorant Park Cities mom that has nothing better to do but troll facebook and news websites like this leaving unintelligent comments that are full of gossip and stupidity. Please be more mature next time you decide to make a comment and don’t get into other’s business that has nothing to do with you.
    Thanks.

  6. Wow, the mentioning of Mr. Banofsky – who I’ve never heard of before- and simply asking the question could it be a conflict of interest, stirred up quite the hornets nest of defense laden with personal attacks. I was lucky enough to get my kids through school without needing to deal with the districts attorney. It just struck me as odd to hear the schools attorney is a parent. I assume that if I’m a parent that finds myself dealing with the schools attorney, something serious is going on with my kid. Do I want to be dealing with sensitive, confidential things about my child with a parent that I perhaps find myself working the lunch line with? Or that my kid and his friends have sleepovers at their house? Dunno, it’s just seems like questions like that could come up. If he has a hard and fast line of not ever discussing district business to his family or local friends, keeps all paperwork and materials related to school business away from his home where his kids and other kids, nosy neighbors or friends might see it, then maybe it’s a non issue. But I would think there would be parents that question it, so I’m surprised the mere mention of a conflict makes people come unhinged.
    If there is a restraining order I would think the school and the schools attorney would have to deal with it. That’s an example of how it could be more difficult for an attorney if his kid was friends with either kid in this situation. Maybe not, again it’s just a question and I don’t I understand why it’s a question that pisses people off.

  7. @ up mom – I agree completely. Without even discussing this particular case, what we’ve learned is that for many HPISD students, a girl is 100% fair game for anything if she kisses someone, has ever had sex before, is inebriated, etc.

    On one hand, I would like to say that I’m surprised at the comments — that people think if a girl smiles at a guy then she’s open to anything for the rest of the night.

    On the other hand, I’m not surprised. Students are probably riding in the car with their parents while they listen to Rush Limbaugh call girls sluts and whores. They are sitting with their parents while they watch Republican Senate candidates explain away rape with statements that “some girls just rape easy” and “good girls” can’t get raped, or they asked for it.

    And these are the future leaders of our community. They are going to go away to UT or SMU and live exactly the same way, with their skewed First Baptist Church of XXXXX values reinforced, that good looking guys can’t be rapists because they wouldn’t HAVE to rape to get sex, and that it’s only “those kinds of girls” that get raped.

    It’s really depressing.

  8. That Free Ryan Romo Facebook page is called doing the DA’s job for them.

    You idiots saying horrible things about this alleged victim are very efficiently building “a culture of rape and slut shaming in Highland Park” prosecution case.

    Uh, hello, you stupid, Parkies. The Free Ryan Facebook Page is currently being screen captured by the DA’s office and some of Ryan’s “friend’s” nastiest comments about the alleged victim are going to read at Ryan’s trial. You can bet on it. Way to do the DA’s job for them. Way to smash Ryan’s defense. Way to exercise your free speech you morons.

    What is Slut Shaming? Here’s a ticket to the clue train, Parkies. All aboard!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXH2K7OC37s

  9. I’m assuming that the bulk of these “he’s such a nice guy, I was there that night” comments are from Ryan Romo’s friends. So let me explain something your parents may never tell you, and your teachers are legally banned from telling you: Even nice guys make mistakes – horrible ones – and if at any time your sexual partner says no, and you continue, you have committed rape.

    And for those who have commented that they were there that night at the concert, and saw her, and there is just no way she wasn’t 100 percent in to having sex with Ryan Romo, let me say this: Even if she told everyone at the club that night that she had every intention of boning him, even if she got up at the microphone during the band’s set and proclaimed far and wide that she was ready for Ryan Romo to take her flower and you heard it, somewhere between that time and the time he allegedly divested himself of his britches in his Tahoe she could have changed her mind. And it is allowed. She says she said no. He allegedly agreed later that she did indeed say no, and that she did indeed say she didn’t want to have sex.

    So, even if “Maybe, I want to, Let’s do it, do you have a condom, or let’s take my panties off,” is uttered, anyone can say, “stop, I don’t want this,” at any point. And that’s what she said she did. And that’s what he said she did, on a tape that is sitting among the rest of the evidence the police have on the case.

    I do agree that the capriciousness of youth can lead to poor decisions. But I also know that youth does not absolve a person from consequences. It is a damned shame, I think, that people are not using this as a teaching tool with their own children – a jumping off point for a real conversation about sex, and how safe sex doesn’t just involve a condom – it involves being a considerate partner in every way, even when your intended partner changes his or her mind.

  10. It’s really depressing when someone tries to shoehorn in their phony political outrage into an actual tragic situation.

    I will lose the rest of what little faith I have in our children if (when?) I see one more comment about how this guy is “such a good kid”/”the coolest”/”nice”. No concept of reality or that simple little phrase; actions speak louder than words.

  11. Facebook pages are never gone. Those rape-culture “she had it coming” comments have sunk that kid.

  12. Far be it from me to try to diminish Bethany’s win, but if what we hear is true, that Romo was 19 and she was 15, then all of this talk about no meaning no is really moot in this particular case. She could have been screaming yes, yes, yes in full 15-year-old rapture and Romo would still have raped her, just by having sex with her at all, period.

    Here’s what a quick and dirty search turned up for Texas law on this:

    http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/txstatutes/PE/5/22/22.011

    But just for the sake of our teaching moment let’s assume that they both were of whatever age would be necessary for statutory rape not to apply. If she says yes, then there is at least no statutory rape. But if she says no, no still means no. She could agree to have sex with him, take him into her arms, encourage him to penetrate her, find him to her horror and rage to be a crude, rough, ignorant and savage pig of a boy 80 seconds into the miserable act, scream no!, stop!, and then…what? It would still be rape. No means no, but more importantly, no means no retroactively to the beginning of the encounter, no matter when it’s uttered, during the encounter or after. Period.

    Jim Schutze of all people makes a great case highlighting this at several points on the post on this issue running on the DO, that this is the real lesson parents of males need to hammer home into their sons as if their lives depended on it, because they do: that every act of intercourse between a male and a female, each and every one, carries the liability of being an occasion of potential not-yet-reported rape, and each of those occasions has a potentially fairly long effective statute of limitations.

    No means no, and no negates any other yes that might have been uttered, tacitly or enthusiastically, at any time, absolutely, and without any real objective defense. Period.

  13. This is intended for both sides. Whether you are defending the girl or Ryan Romo this accounts for everyone. I think we all need to take a step back and look at what we are doing right now. It’s obvious that this is all so messed up and everyone’s opinions are making it worse, but how do you think this is affecting them right now while they just sit and read these comments that make both of them sound like they’re to blame and should be punished and what not. Why do we believe we are so morally sufficient to judge others on this very very scary and emotional and traumatic time in their lives instead of just letting it be their business? Now I realize I sound like a hypocrite but for the most part, yall are acting just as immature and ignorant as the kids who made the facebook page. Please allow some relief for these families and these individuals— our opinions arent going to shape the outcome so lets give them some piece of mind instead of them constantly checking these sites to see who is bashing on their child or community.

    And another thing, please stop using the HP stereotypes of the “rich little white boy” and “rich spoiled brats” that let their parents do anything and can get out of everything with “money” shit stop….Do you really think money is gonna help them forget this? Do you think that the past week of absolute torture and hell is going to go away by paying a bond? If he is guilty he will serve his time and if not he will still spend the rest of his life paying for the accusation. And even on her case- you really think that publicizing about this girls most terrifying life moment wont be remembered and stick with her reputation forever? We all need to remember that we all have portions of our lives that we constantly come into our memory and haunt us and having a whole state talk trash about it really will never fix it especially when they dont know you. It breaks my heart to see people talk about HP like they actually know what it is like living there. Yall act like because this happened here and because he posted bail that he is off the hook and that no one believes he is guilty because hes a “rich white boy that plays sports”…. Every high school deals with rape, every highschool deals with teen pregnancies, bullying, underage drinking, drugs, etc. but because it is Highland Park and yall socially stereotype every single person there..well that just might be worse. Maybe you base it off of one bad person you’ve met or even a group, but really? there has been incidents just like this all over Texas including the notorious “fab five” from McKinney North and so many more. So unless you went to the perfect highschool where nothing ever happened (which is no one) please stop blaming this on the community. Unless you are the individuals who were unfortunately mixed into this situation please just trust the justice system.

  14. Steve,
    I wholeheartedly agree with you – and have brought this up elsewhere. If your partner is younger than 17, and the gap between you greater than 36 months, you can be charged with sexual assault of a minor or indecency with a child.

    That fact, along with the sundry others we mentioned, are exactly why parents need to be proactive and less shy about discussing these things with their children. Which conversation is less awkward – the one where you explain the realities of embarking on a sex life (including the possible legal ramifications), or the one that occurs during the ride home from bailing your kid out of jail for rape?

  15. Yes this is messed up, this is about an 18 yr old senior boy and a 16 yr old sophomore girl. Because of the ACCUSATION, he is prohibited from being around minors…as in no school, no contact with friends under 18, no senior graduation events, sports, etc. Does that sound innocent until proven guilty? The whole thing is sickening and I don’t think it’s right either! They both made bad choices that night.

  16. @Bethany,

    It’s not just limited to young people and statutory rape. Whatever your age, unless you have an incontrovertible history of being consistently happily married or partnered over a fairly long period of time, any given act of sex these days has, under the right circumstances, the potential to be complained and charged as rape and then widely discussed, regardless of the ultimate legal outcome. As I mentioned, no means no regardless of when it’s uttered, and whenever it is uttered whoever the recipient might be immediately becomes a potential rape defendant.

  17. @ Anonymous

    The fact that crime happens everywhere is not the point. The point is that time and time again we see that 2 classes of people commit crimes and then walk away.
    The wealthy and the celebrity.
    In TX high schools there is no greater celebrity than the jock.
    The post of theis jocks friends, and their parents just prove it. Not one single expression of sympathy or remorse for a young rape victim (and the medical reports show rape) just a circling of the wagons and a liberal helping of slut shaming the teenager.

  18. Public opinion does NOT matter. People are venting. IT IS THE LAW that matters and the Grand Jury.

  19. How would comments on here and Facebook be used against him at his trial? That is ridiculous. Unless he wrote the comments they would be 100% inadmissible, and why the hell would the DA’s office care about what is on Facebook anyway? The 1st Amendment gives us the right to speak out minds – thank God this is the USA and not Iran. It’s good that people are talking about this, it will raise awareness.

  20. @WhatChuTalkinBoutParkie

    From the language expressed on The Free Ryan Romo Facebook Page it was started in agency of Ryan Romo–to help get his side of the story out and to set him free. If his page starts to defame, slander or threaten the alleged victim I could be admissible, especially when some of the members of Free Ryan Romo have posted the alleged victim’s name and age.

    Here are two more tickets to the clue train, jump on board!

    http://blogs.riverfronttimes.com/dailyrft/2012/09/ladue_high_school_list_senior_girls.php?page=3

    http://thecurvature.com/2011/03/10/de-anza-rape-trial-filled-with-victim-blaming-slut-shaming/

  21. Does the HPISD have any kind of rape/sexual harassment education or programs? It seems clear that something is needed, to education the young folks in what the rules are in the real world, as opposed to in their imaginary world.

  22. Okay, so the girl is a minor. Where were the parents? I’m sure they didn’t tell her to leave alone with a guy and get in the back seat of an SUV alone with him. (Or maybe they did, who knows?) If they think they’re going to get justice for their darling little daughter, she hasn’t SEEN the trauma that girl is going to suffer at the hands of an aggressive defense attorney. And you can bet that attorney will be all over the girl, her parents, and everyone else involved (including any other boys she may have “made out” with). What did this girl THINK was going to happen when she got in the back seat, alone, with another teenager of the opposite sex? Popcorn and a movie? He shouldn’t have to pay the price for HER bad decisions. I’m not saying he’s innocent (or guilty), but it takes two.

  23. @Steven Parks
    Remember Blaming the alleged victim was Sandusky’s defense. Didn’t work then, probably won’t work now.

  24. Re: Steven Parks

    And this is exactly the problem in our society. A whole paragraph blaming the girl.

    “He shouldn’t have to pay the price for HER bad decisions” is probably the saddest comment I’ve read about this whole situation.

    I guess we need to have some kind of zipper locks or something but on boys’ pants to keep these sex-crazed girls from having their way with them.

    Shameful.